Birth is probably the most impact-full experience we will have this lifetime.
The decisions we made during pregnancy and birth are the foundation for the beliefs and patterns activated this lifetime.
The imprint we get around birth is meant to last for a lifetime. We expected an imprint so we could adapt to our environment. What we did not expect was an imprint of pain and separation. It was, for most of us, way outside our range of adaptability.
Birth is neither a medical event nor a disease. Medical intervention is usually unnecessary and should only be used in emergencies.
Bright lights, drugs, caesarean, forceps, incubator, chord cut too early are just some of the extreme forms of medical intervention that can cause birth trauma.
Through millions of years of evolution, a baby EXPECTS to be born naturally, without intervention or separation, and allowed to rest in its mother’s arms right after birth.
This is when any shock of birth can be released for both baby and mother. It is also where the bonding and positive imprinting with mother can occur. If this does not occur right after birth, it probably never will.
Without this expected bonding, there could be depression for the mother and agony for the baby.
When a baby screams at birth, it not just a sign of a healthy baby, it is more a sign of agony and desperation.
It is imperative that we welcome the being-ness and the consciousness of our new-borns, and stop seeing them just as bodies. They need to feel included at birth!
The traces left by the tortures at birth are everywhere to be seen: on the skin, in the bones, in the stomach, in the back, in all our human folly, in our madness, in our torture, in our prisons, in legends, epics and myths! (Frederik Leboyer)
Having a traumatic birth can cause people to have the thought that ‘pleasure is followed by pain’, having come from the relative safety and comfort of the womb.
Research shows that most violent criminals had a complication at birth and they were separated from their mothers.
The quality of birth affects the quality of life and thus impacts and shapes the quality of society.
Having a baby is the most natural thing in the world. Birth can be ecstatic !
Having said all this, let us remember the higher purpose and that on some level we choose all of it. We choose our parents and our life experience, and this includes how we come into the world. Birth can be seen as one of our greatest forgiveness lessons - an opportunity to forgive ourselves and everyone involved !