Great Truths, Insights & Paradoxes about 'Relationships' | ||||
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| | The way to be happy in relationships is to use them as opportunities to re-member who we really are. In fact, only in relationship can we remember who we really are. | ||
| | Relationships are for mastering who we really are and to see how we live up to our ideas, rather than seeing how others live up to our ideas. | ||
| | The most loving person is the person who is Self centred. The obsession with the other and the losing of Self is what causes relationships to ‘fail’. If you cannot love your Self, you cannot love another. | ||
| | The question in relationship is always: “What is my highest choice in this situation, i.e. what would love do now?”, rather than: “What can I gain from the other?” | ||
| | Love is when two are committed to each other’s spiritual growth. Love says: “My will for you is your will for you.” | ||
| | You have no obligations in relationships, only opportunities! | ||
| | The love within us is constantly trying to push our suppressed feelings up to the surface so they can be healed. We see this happening most when we fall in love. Falling in love is safe! | ||
| | When others trigger our suppressed feelings, we need to thank them instead of blaming them. | ||
| | Man and woman come together in relationship to appreciate themselves as one. | ||
| | Staying in relationship will definitely give us the opportunity to heal all our blocks. | ||
| | Our job is not to see how long we can stay in relationship, but to decide and experience who we really are. | ||
| | When a relationship deteriorates, it means it’s got down to the bottom lines and now it can heal. | ||
| | Relationships according to ‘A Course in Miracles’: | ||
| | You cannot enter God's Presence... alone. All your brothers must enter with you, for until you have accepted them you cannot enter. (T-11.III.7:8,9) | ||
| | There are no accidents in salvation. Those who are to meet will meet, because together they have the potential for a holy relationship. They are ready for each other. (M-3.1:6-8) | ||
| | Relationships are always purposeful. (P-3.III.6:3) | ||
| | The ark of peace is entered two by two .... (T-20.IV.6:5) | ||
| | All relationships in this world begin as special relationships, since they begin with the perception of separation and differences, which must then be corrected by the Holy Spirit through forgiveness, making the relationships holy. Specialness has two forms: special hate justifies the projection of guilt by attack; special love conceals the attack within the illusion of love, where we believe our special needs are met by special people with special attributes, for which we love them. (Glossary) | ||
| | Special (Unholy) Relationships: | ||
| | The special love relationship is the ego's chief weapon for keeping you from Heaven. (T-16.V.2:3) | ||
| | The ego establishes relationships only to get something. (T-15.VII.2:1) | ||
| | For an unholy relationship is based on differences, where each one thinks the other has what he has not. They come together, each to complete himself and rob the other. They stay until they think that there is nothing left to steal, and then move on. (T-22.int.2:5-7) | ||
| | To believe that special relationships, with special love, can offer salvation is to believe that separation is salvation. (T-15.V.3:3) | ||
| | How then, could guilt not enter? For separation is the source of guilt. (T-15.V.2:4-5) | ||
| | Because of guilt, all special relationships have elements of fear in them. This is why they shift and change so frequently. They are not based on changeless love alone. (T-15.V.4:1-3) | ||
| | Be not afraid to look upon the special hate relationship, for freedom lies in looking at it. (T-16.IV.1:1) | ||
| | Holy Spirit uses special relationships, ... as learning experiences ... Under His teaching, every relationship becomes a lesson in love. (T-15.V.4:5-6) | ||
| | Holy Spirit would not deprive you of your special relationships... (T-17.IV.2:3) | ||
| | ....but would transform them... bring a touch of Heaven to them here. (T-15.V.8:1) | ||
| | Forgiveness is the end of specialness! (T-24.III.1.1) | ||
| | Holy Relationships: | ||
| | A holy relationship starts from a different premise. Each one has looked within and seen no lack. Accepting his completion, he would extend it by joining with another, whole as himself. (T-22.int.3:1-3) | ||
| | Never can there be peace among the different. Each one must share one goal with someone else, and in so doing, lose all sense of separate interests. (P-2.II.8:4) | ||
| | It is no dream to love your brother as yourself. Nor is your holy relationship a dream. (T-18.V.5:1,2) | ||
| | All that remains of dreams within it is that it is still a special relationship - through which [Holy Spirit] can spread joy to thousands on thousands ... (T-18.V.5:3,5) | ||
| | Relationships are still the temple of the Holy Spirit, and they will be made perfect in time and restored to eternity. (P-2.II.1:5) | ||
| | [The holy relationship] is the old, unholy relationship, transformed and seen anew - the only difficult phase is the beginning. Many relationships have broken off at this point. (T-17.V) | ||
| | Think what a holy relationship can teach! Here is belief in differences undone. (T-22.int.4:1,2) | ||
| | This holy relationship has the power to heal all pain, regardless of its form. (T-22.VI.4:4) | ||
| | The holiest of all the spots on earth is where an ancient hatred has become a present love. (T-26.IX.6:1)
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